Sexual well-being is a fundamental aspect of our overall health, yet it is often surrounded by misconceptions and stigma. As a sex therapist, I believe that we need to be able to openly talk about it. By understanding the facts about sexual health, we can dispel myths, reduce stigma, and empower ourselves to make informed decisions. Here are ten essential facts about sexual health that everyone should know.

1. Time to Reach Orgasm: Approximately 75% of men reach orgasm within 2-10 minutes of penetration, whereas women often take 15-40 minutes with proper (typically clitoral) stimulation. Fewer that 30% of Women Orgasm Through Penetration Alone.

2. Prevalence of Sexual Dysfunction: About 43% of women and 31% of men report experiencing some form of sexual dysfunction, such as low desire, difficulty achieving orgasm, or pain during intercourse, at some point in their lives. (I think the numbers are much higher, and why are we calling it a dysfunction? This is exactly what we can work on in Couples Counselling and Sex Therapy)

3. Sexual Frequency: The average frequency of sexual activity for couples in a long-term relationship is about once a week, though this varies widely and is influenced by factors like age, health, and relationship satisfaction. (Regardless of how often people have sex, most people think that others are having more frequent, or more satisfying or more adventurous sex life)

4. Impact of Communication: Studies show that couples who discuss their sexual desires and preferences are 55% more likely to report higher levels of sexual satisfaction. (no kidding)

5. Benefits of Sexual Activity: Engaging in regular sexual activity can boost the immune system, with some studies suggesting it can increase the production of immunoglobulin A (IgA) by 30%, which helps fight off illnesses. This goes for partnered sex as well as self pleasure.
   

6. Erectile Dysfunction (ED): ED affects about 52% of men between the ages of 40 and 70 to varying degrees, with the prevalence increasing with age. (Certain medical conditions like diabetes, as well as medications like beta-blockers might be causing ED. There's a lot we can do about this, and it's a good conversation to have. Please talk to your doctor before talking to a therapist, as ED can be a sign of underlying health issues)

7. Lubrication Use: Around 65% of women report that using lubricant during sex makes the experience more pleasurable and comfortable. (Post menopause it's often essential.)

8. Orgasm Disparity: Research indicates that in heterosexual encounters, men are more likely to reach orgasm (95%) compared to women (65%). This disparity is known as the "orgasm gap." (Let's understand the reasons behind these numbers and let's reduce the gap. )

9. Physical Activity and Sexual Health: Regular physical activity is linked to better sexual function. For example, men who exercise regularly are 30% less likely to experience erectile dysfunction, and women often report improved arousal and satisfaction.

10. Impact of Mental Health: Anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues, as well as medication that might be prescribed to treat the symptoms, can significantly affect sexual desire, arousal, ability to reach an orgasm, quality of orgasms, and performance. Addressing these underlying issues with a professional can improve sexual well-being. (There's lots we can do to offset these side effects)

By understanding these key points, individuals and couples can foster healthier, more satisfying sexual relationships. Some of these points are obvious - but it doesn't make it any less vulnerable to be able to discuss them with your partner (or a doctor). Remember, education and open communication are the cornerstones of sexual well-being.

I'd be happy to support you (or you and your partner) in the exploration of what fulfilling sexuality looks like for you. I offer Sex Therapy for Couples and for Women in Calgary, AB, and around the world online. Currently there's a waiting list to work with me. You can see my schedule and available openings here.