The New Year's Eve is a perfect time for couples to pause, connect, and reflect on the journey they've shared over the past twelve months. It’s an opportunity to celebrate what’s gone well, acknowledge growth, and dream together for the future.

Here are nine thoughtful questions to guide your conversation.

Set aside some uninterrupted time, maybe with a cup of tea or a cozy evening together, and explore these questions. Be open, curious, and kind as you listen to each other’s reflections.

1. What’s one thing your partner did this year that you deeply appreciated?

Get specific! Share the moments that stood out and why they meant so much to you. Better yet, share at least 3 things, or 12 - go back through the year, and keep sharing.

2. What were the best memories you created together this year?

Relive the laughter, adventures, or quiet, meaningful moments.

3. How did we grow as a couple this year?

What was one of the toughest moments you faced this year, and how did you navigate it together? Reflect on how you worked as a team to handle challenges and what you learned from those experiences. Celebrate your growth—big or small. Did you navigate challenges together, improve communication, or deepen your intimacy?

4. What’s something you learned about your partner this year that surprised or delighted you?

What’s something your partner did this year that inspired you?

Even in long-term relationships, there’s always something new to discover. Share something you adore, admire, or respect about them.

5. What’s one area we could work on improving together next year?

Frame this with love and care. What would make your relationship even stronger? What intentions do you want to set? Improve communication? Deepen intimacy? Learn about conflict resolution? Spend more time together?

6. What’s something you’re proud of individually that you’d like to share?

This is a chance to celebrate personal wins and acknowledge the support you give each other. Make sure you use Active Constructive Responding Technique when your partner shares.

7. What’s one thing you’d love to do more of together next year?

Get creative—date nights, travel, hobbies, or simply more time to connect.

8. What’s a wish or dream you have for us as a couple in the coming year?

Think about your shared vision for the future and what excites you about the year ahead.

9. How can I support you better in the coming year? aka How can I love you better?

End with a commitment to care and love, tailored to your partner’s unique needs.

Why Reflection Matters

These questions aren’t just about looking back—they’re a way to deepen your connection and align on your shared goals. Reflecting together fosters appreciation, builds intimacy, and sets the stage for an intentional year ahead.

So, light some candles, grab a journal, and enjoy this meaningful time together. And if you’d like, make it a yearly ritual!